I wonder how many of us want to be better or think they need to be better. I am one of those who do believe that. I need to believe that. I think of that as the reason that keeps me going on. Does believing this make you a better person? No. Action on the other hand does.
Dreams. We all have them, don’t we? We ll say “oh! I wish all my dreams would come true”. The problem with dreams is that, most of them, when they come true they sort of backfire. I mean yeah, you want loads of money, and you get it one way or another. Then you start being paranoid about people being your friends only for that reason, you start thinking you’re better than everyone, you forget what modesty is. I don’t think being modest is the best way to live your life but you do need it sometimes.
So the issue is, do dreams make us better persons or not? Some might, but then again some might not. Let me detail that a bit. Let’s say you dream of your handsome prince who will one day arrive and scoop you up from your stupid, miserable, boring life. You want it so bad so you start day/night dreaming about it. Is that really healthy? It can’t be. What will you do if he does not show up?? Kill yourself, go crazy, settle for less than you wanted, live your life alone because you could not find him?
I once wrote on this blog that I will give up dreaming, hoping, wishing for anything. Did I really? I mean I surely know it is not healthy, especially if it is something that might not ever come true, but can I do that? Simply stop?
I didn’t!!
I wish I could… A friend said that I shouldn’t, so, maybe, unknowingly I followed his advice.
Sometimes it’s like a real battle in my head, just like Smeagol and Gollum (horrible comparisom). A part of me wants to stop day dreaming, fantasizing and the other wants to be this romantic, day dreaming, hopeful person. Imagine the dialogue:
Dreamy: It would be so great if…
Sensible: If you what? Stop that!
Dreamy: But I want that!
Sensible: But can you get it? Get real!
Dreamy: I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.
Sensible: But it’s the best way, the safest. You can’t get hurt if you don’t hope.
Dreamy: I wish I could…
Sensible: Haven’t you learned your lesson yet?!
Dreamy: Oh, yeah, I have… OK. I’ll stop. But… I wish…
Which one is the best? Maybe there should be a balance between the two but how can you get it? In the end I think the sensible part wins, it’s only right. But for most people, even me sometimes, the dreamy part goes on living a suppresed life. When they get disappointed they don’t know what to do with themselves, they get depressed and promise they’ll never do that again, at least until given a new oportunity.
I wonder how our world would be without the dreamers. Think of Martin Luther King. That is the best example, might be cliche but you must admit he was grand. His speach, “I have a dream”, had a great impact on the world. So, dreaming can’t be all bad.
I guess I am contradicting myself. I still am not sure on which side I stand, the sensible or dreamy one. Life and experience will tell.
As Martin Luther King said: I have a dream and I will definately make it come true.
